Life is not easy. We have disappointment, suffering, loss and pain. Our world is corrupt and free will causes bad decisions and some of those decision will end up in a broken heart. This can be from a relationship that broke up or unforeseen loss of your job or maybe a sudden death of a close friend. Our lives will not be easy or without hurt but God is the best healer for a broken heart. May I say the only healer for a broken heart.
In the book of Matthew we are taught the Beatitudes. Beatitude means supreme blessing and Jesus taught them in the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5:2-11) I would like to look at Matthew 5:4 in particular.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
You know, God doesn’t expect us to be happy all the time. It is impossible to be here on earth and to constantly be happy. Life has ups and downs and we have no way of avoiding this. Jesus tells us in the is second beatitude to mourn our disappointments and losses. When we mourn which means to feel or show deep sorrow or regret we begin a healing process. This is a process that involves God giving us strength to heal and move forward in growth. You play a big part in how quickly and effectively you allow God’s healing.
I know we hurt badly when we have been betrayed or suddenly lost a loved one but that is when we need to turn to God to comfort us. You may not understand why you are in this position of suffering and that’s okay. The most important thing to do is to turn to God for His love and support. Pray to our Heavenly Father to move you through the difficult time and to take your hand and guide you. Just like a teenager with a broken heart that turns to his or her parent to help we must too turn to our Father that loves us and can heal anyone.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 tells us there is a time for everything and God has planned it to be this way. This is His normal cycle for our progression. Happy times and sad times are part of the process. See the verse below.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
This shows us that there is a negative and positive to every season or situation in our lives. Grief is an essential part of a healthy life. You must mourn and grieve to stay healthy. You cannot hold in sadness or bottle it up because it will lead to an unhealthy breakdown. If you start to process sadness quickly and with God you will heal stronger to move on more rapidly. Now I am not saying God wants you to heal and forget. He wants you to appreciate the loss and grow. For example if you suddenly lose a dear family member without any notice it can be devastating. If you quiet yourself and remember that God blessed you with that family member for a period of time to be a great influence on you. He didn’t promise you that person would be with you forever so grow from the beautiful things that person gave you.
I lost my grandmother very suddenly and very expectantly. She was 66 years old and had just learned to drive because my grandfather who was much older than my grandma always drove her around. My grandmother was fearful he would pass away and she would have no way to get anywhere unless she learned to drive. She bought a car and I helped her learn to drive. We spend time together in her little VW Jetta sharing the basic driving techniques she would need to know to pass her driving test.
Not long after learning how to drive she passed away very unexpectantly. I was heartbroken. I turned to God for comfort and immediately He helped me remember the days I spent in the car with my grandma. He showed me the special time He put my grandma in my life doing something special together, just the two of us. He put us together for that time because He knew she would be leaving me. I healed more quickly even though I still miss my grandma to this day I appreciate more clearly and fondly my time with her.
I always spent time at the holidays making Christmas cookies with her and to this day not a Christmas goes by I don’t make and share cookies in her honor. God healed me after my loss to appreciate and be grateful for this special lady that was my grandma. How could I be sad when I know God designed my grandma especially for me and He is holding her in Heaven in His arms?
God will bless us when we are broken hearted as difficult as that may seem to understand. We need to remember when we need God He will always pull us nearer and closer to Him. He is our Father and is meant for love and comfort. Open your heart to Him when you are hurting.
Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him. Psalm 34:8
Remember in the Bible in John 11:35 when Jesus wept? This is the shortest verse but maybe one of the most important to remember. Just as Jesus wept on this earth God grieves with us in Heaven. God is empathetic and feels our pain with us. That is why He is a good and loving God.
God also gives us a community for love and support. Our church community, family and friends when walking in faith are our earthly community that can build us back up and lift us. Use your communities here on earth as God blessed you with them for additional comfort.
I have told you many times that our toughest times of suffering become our greatest ministry. My walk through a divorce with a small child that I constantly had to hide her father’s drug and alcohol abuse took me to a very difficult place. I know I went through that journey so I can help others suffering. I recently spoke to a young mother that had a three year old daughter that was fleeing from a drug dealing abusive husband. I could tell her with my heart I had been in her shoes and God would bring her and her daughter through this struggle. I looked her in the eyes and told her to look at her daughter and know God gave her daughter to her to give her strength to overcome this situation. I knew my daughter was the only reason I could go on when I didn’t think I could in those dark days. I emphasized that God blessed her with that small child to get her through this season in her life. He is with her and it would be okay.
The last thing I would like to share with you is grief is evidence of love. If you weren’t sad or broken hearted you would have never loved or cared. Without love we are nothing and with pain we are something as tough as that may be to hear.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 says it clearly and beautifully.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
If you are currently broken hearted or suffering I am so sorry for your pain but know that Jesus is walking with you and all you have to do it take His hand and allow Him to heal you. Appreciate the pain and grow in God as you heal. All my love-LoLo