Gratitude Archive

The Two Books I Live By

When I was young, I read for pleasure. There were no handheld video games or computers with unlimited information. I read to live through books. I loved Judy Blume’s books. I think I lived out my adventures and dreams through books; the more descriptive, the better.

Of course, these days, few people read. My book collection is long gone, and most books on my nightstand get started and then sit in a pile. I intend to finish them, but then life gets in the way. My book collection now sits on my Kindle. An electronic collection of books that I can visually see how much I have read and how much remains. The premise is the same whether they sit in a pile next to my nightstand or on my iPad. Two books don’t receive this treatment. The Bible authored by God, and How Not To Die by Dr. Michael Greger. I hold these books in my hands, turn the pages, and savor the words on each page.

These books have become very important to me for various reasons. Let’s first look at the Bible.

Rick Warren once said, “The Bible is your owner’s manual. It has all the answers you need, whether it is temptation, money, love, cheating, your career, relational issues, basically anything you deal with in life is answered there!” He said that most complicated things in life need a manual to understand how it works. For example, a car needs a manual to understand how everything works on a car. The signals, the maintenance needed, the type of gas, the air pressure for the tires, and so on.

Just like the car, we need a manual to understand how we are to live. God guides us on how to have a faithful marriage, treat others, be obedient to Him, do business fairly, care for our bodies, and so on. God has covered everything! When I struggled with alcohol addiction, God had the answer.


Envy, drunkenness, orgies (parties), and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
     Galatians 5:21

When I struggled with anxiety, God had the answers.

“I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.”
Psalm 34:4

say to those with fearful hearts,
    “Be strong, do not fear;
your God will come,
    he will come with vengeance;
with divine retribution
    he will come to save you.” Isaiah 35:4

When I overspent, God had the answer.

When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. James 4:3

When I was overweight and acted in a glutinous way, God had the answer.

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

This last Bible verse led me to the other book I heavily lean on. Dr. Greger’s book is based on published medical and scientific studies proving that the food God gives us allows us to flourish for His glory. Not processed fast food that makes up the Standard American Diet that is referred to as the SAD diet. God says my body is a temple for Him to dwell within. Why have I been filling my temple with foods that aren’t nourishing or made by God’s hands? Why did I choose convenience over nutrition?

Ash Wednesday, 2023, I prayed for 40 people for 40 days. My prayer list included 23 people with chronic intense medical diseases (pancreatitis, cancer, diabetes, and heart disease) as well as 13 people with mental health issues (anxiety and depression). This didn’t leave many spots for the prayer requests to pray for others wanting to become pregnant, find a new career, build relationships, or draw closer to God. This led me to research why this prayer list was heavily tilted toward health prayers. I quickly learned that lifestyle and food changes can prevent most of these conditions. Simply eat food the way God intended and as closely to how He made it. Whole food, nutrient-dense foods, and plant-based. You may say God created cows, pigs, and chickens to eat, but I ask you, what do these animals eat? Plants, we are eating the middle man when they are nourishing themselves on plants, not meat.

My husband says that when I believe in something, I become exuberant and forget that not everyone wants to accept Jesus or become plant-based. I remind him of John 4:17,

So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.

I feel that if I have knowledge of a better life, whether in knowing Jesus or eating a healthy diet to reduce illness and not share it, I am committing a sin. Jesus teaches us to plant seeds so that lives will blossom.

Healthy plants (beans, seeds, nuts, vegetables, fruits, grains) are filled with protein, amino acids, and nutrients with ZERO cholesterol. More information can be found at: https://www.forksoverknives.com/how-tos/plant-based-primer-beginners-guide-starting-plant-based-diet/

God even tells us He will provide all the food we need. 

Then God said, “Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the surface of all the earth, and every tree which has fruit yielding seed; it shall be food for you; Genesis 1:29

I wanted to include the table of contents from Dr. Greger’s book to show you how not to die from 15 different conditions by eating a whole food plant-based diet. If you take medication for any of these conditions, consider learning more about how this type of eating may save your life, reduce your medicines, and possibly allow you to live longer.

Many people take the approach of, I will do the best I can here on earth and face God when it’s time, or if I get sick, I’ll just take a pill to fix my illness. You are absolutely entitled to make those decisions. I ask that you find a better and healthier life in my two favorite books.

May God bless you this very day, and thank you for reading my blog. LoLo

Mary, Did You Know?

So, it has been quite a while since I have posted a blog. There are many reasons for this, but the main reason is my friend and podcast producer passed away unexpectedly on October 1st. Mark Friedman believed in Grateful Gratitude before I knew what Grateful Gratitude would be.

I am floundering to figure out how to continue my podcast since Mark was usually present to banter with me when I recorded. I would always walk into his studio, and he’d always have something he “needed” counseling on (his words, not mine). He wanted my opinion on someone he “liked” (as if we were in high school). It could have been that he wanted to challenge me on my knowledge of the Bible or even talk sports, although I knew nothing about sports. He made every session comfortable and thought-provoking.

As I contemplate this Christmas without podcasts with Mark, my thoughts turn to a beautiful Christmas song, “Mary, Did You Know” by Mark Lowry. The lyrics ring more repeatedly this year than any other year. I wake up with the lyrics swirling in my head at 3 am. Why is this, and how does it relate to Mark “Friedo” Friedman?

It dawned on me that Mark would always say to me, “Hey, did you know…..”? Every session in the studio or any time I ran into him, he would always ask me that question, followed by a random question. I imagine all his friends heard this often, too.

Now that Mark is gone, I reflect on some of those questions. Mark asked me a few profound questions. One was, “Hey, did you know that I think I had a near-death experience when I was in my coma?” Of course, I did not know this at the time. He proceeded to tell me cryptic bits of what he recalled when he lay in a coma that he thought he may have been dying. I studied heaven when my dad was terminally ill with pancreatic cancer. I taught a class on heaven and passing away Mark had attended after he was released from the hospital. I think he felt I might be able to help him understand his experience. This opened the door to more conversations about passing away and going to heaven. May I just say that Mark was not afraid to die and knew the promise of heaven?

Three days before Mark passed away, I went to his studio to record, and as soon as I hit the door, he said, “Hey, did you know I am having more of those experiences we talked about? Do you have time to hang around and talk about them?” Unfortunately, we got off-topic and never had that conversation. Later that afternoon, I remembered I hadn’t discussed the experiences he mentioned. Like many, I stowed it away to talk to Mark about the next time I saw him.

Sunday evening, just three days later, I received the text that Mark had passed away. I was stunned at first and thought the same thought most people had, “I just saw him!” This caused my mind to race and relive the session we just had. He looked great, better than he had all year. He usually was jaundiced, but his eyes were clear and bright white that day. I said to him, “You look great. Better than I can remember.” He laughed and said, “You wouldn’t think that if you saw my blood panels.”

Laying in bed that Sunday night, I dozed off but awoke suddenly around 3 am. A conversation with Mark last spring hit me like a ton of bricks. I arrived early for a lunch meeting, and Mark and my friend Justin were at the restaurant talking. The restaurant was quiet and empty. I hadn’t seen Mark in several weeks. I asked him how he was, and he flippantly said, “Hey, did you know I was in the hospital recently?” “No, how would I know that?” I responded.

Mark looked me in the eyes and said, “Yeah, I was, and the doctors say I have six months to live.” Mark was always kidding, so I responded, “Oh, shut up. That’s not true.”

Mark brushed it off and changed the subject. Mark is such a private person; I would have never expected him to share something like that. Back to “Mary, Did You Know,” why is it haunting me this holiday? It wasn’t mainly the Christmas song, but the words, “Did You know”?

That phrase, “did you know,” brings me back to Mark. It brings me back to that last session when he rallied and looked healthy.

I feel that Mark knew my faith and that hearing the three little words, “Did you know?” would remind me how special he was. How he believed in me when I didn’t believe in me. This is our last podcast together. Mark, I did not know this would be our last podcast, but I greatly thank you for being there on this day.

Thank you for reading this blog post, and please look up for one minute to say hi to Mark and know he is with Jesus.

Why Thrive in Chaos When You Can Live in Love

Our senior pastor, Jeff Jones, and a branding expert, Mike Hogan, recently wrote and published the most simple and beautiful book, Rebranding Christianity.

Amazon description:

***#1 AMAZON BESTSELLER IN CHRISTIAN SOCIAL STUDIES***

Christianity is known for a lot of things these days. Labeled as intolerant or hateful, the true heart of the Christian faith has been buried underneath an onslaught of bad attention and bad press. We’ve failed our brand.

In John 13, Jesus gave us the brand―radical love. Christians are known for many things today, but love is not one of them. In Rebranding Christianity, Pastor Jeff Jones and professional marketer Mike Hogan combine their experience to provide a fresh new perspective on the Christian faith, how it has strayed from its true intention, and how to reclaim it. Interwoven with case studies of the most trusted and hated brands, Jones and Hogan break down how brands lose the trust of their audience and, once lost, how that trust can be regained.

It’s time for Christianity to return to its true intention. It’s time for a rebrand.

https://www.amazon.com/Rebranding-Christianity-Worlds-Important-Brand/dp/B0CDCMBSG2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=KCS8YWF8MBZX&keywords=rebranding+christianity+jeff+jones&qid=1694356115&sprefix=rebranding+%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1

Several years ago, as I was growing my ministry, Grateful Gratitude, I sat in church and listened to Jeff speak of a new mission our church would lead called “DO GOOD,” and reminding others that Christianity is about love. We would be starting from scratch to rebuild the view of Christianity. We would simply love without judgment. We will be humble and gentle. You can click the link below and watch that sermon.

https://www.chaseoaks.org/series-archive/vision-weekend/vision-weekend

I walked out of church that morning changed. I knew my ministry had to be based on this. I would serve our community in need without thinking. What I mean by this is I would listen to God’s urging and opportunities without hesitation. Little did I know the world would be uprooted and a pandemic would hit the United States a few weeks later. This sermon was stored in the back of my mind as I faced this new unknown. I faced lockdown, limited supplies needed for daily living, daily broadcasts of the rising numbers of deaths, and new cases of Covid 19. It seemed to me Satan was stirring up his earthy chaos as fear, hatred, and division grew exponentially.

It took me several weeks of staring at screens for updates and praying for cases to drop instead of increasing. Weeks of buying masks, gloves, hand sanitizer, and toilet paper when I could find them in grocery stores. I am constantly praying my family will be safe from this insipid virus.

Then it hit me. I was recently tasked with a beautiful sermon to love another, be humble, and proclaim Jesus gently. How in this strange thing called a pandemic was I going to serve God in isolation? I wasn’t; I was going to be bold and not afraid. I would take safe measures but not quit serving in a scary time.

The first act of boldness was to participate in an all-county food drive, sharing food with those called food insecure. This was a new concept for me as I always had food. Grateful Gratitude was asked to come to a local church where Minnie’s Food Pantry would give 100 pounds of food to needy families. This would be a drive-thru set up for cars to show proof of county residency, and they would be able to drive away with food. I was told there were 600 families signed up to receive food. I was asked to gift gratitude hearts to each car and share the message of HOPE. I immediately counted the number of hearts I had on hand, which was 1004.

I felt this commitment was too huge for just one person, and that person was me, but I knew a few good friends would grow their faith by participating with me. Those three friends met me at the church that Saturday at 6:45 a.m. We were unsure what this day would be like, yet we knew we had only 3 hours as cars lined up to be able to share hearts and HOPE with those waiting. We would have to be done when the line opened and began to move.

We quickly realized this would be a huge job as each car had many family members inside the cars, and I was planning on handing each person a gratitude heart and visiting with them. I felt God urge me to use my few words quickly and effectively. I changed my explanation of what the gratitude heart meant and how they were hand carved in Kenya to, “Hi, I’m LoLo with Grateful Gratitude. I’d like to gift you this heart for HOPE in this difficult time and to remind you God is with you. Turn to Him in your need.” This picture shows examples of the hearts I gifted that day.

My friends and I moved from car to car, sharing simple words of HOPE and praying with those who asked. I quickly realized this was a time that didn’t matter if you were driving a 2020 Mercedes or 1988 Toyota; at that moment, everyone was in need. I saw people overextended with no financial reserves waiting for food, some only receiving social security and teachers who couldn’t adapt to online teaching and quit their jobs, not to mention many people whom I couldn’t communicate with because of language barriers.

I knew confidently that God was working through me, handing hearts. I was offering something tangible for them to hold onto, something they would take home knowing I cared about them and that God is faithful. This was so powerful for my faith growth and reassured me no matter how difficult life becomes, I remember the message and mission that Jeff preached about. Move forward always humbly, gently, and loving like Jesus does. Be a Christian with your actions, and the chaos falls away. Satan doesn’t win; God does. I shared 964 hearts that day and only was able to get to half of the cars in line.

The sermon Jeff preached on Sunday, February 23, 2020, was purposefully delivered and heard. God is amazing at providing the words we need to do His work and providing a church that allows me to do what God has called me to do.

Please consider buying and reading this book. It is as impactful as The Purpose Driven Life, written by Rick Warren in 1997. Rick’s book is about finding your purpose, and Rebranding Christianity is about serving God best in your purpose through love.

We Have No Control in Life; Let Go

I am a woman, and it is said that women like to control everything and everyone. A woman wants to be the puppetmaster and control all the strings in her life. Her husband, her kids, her coworkers, the outings, the meals, the spending, the everything. I was that type of woman, but I no longer am.

I once felt that if I controlled how everything was in my life, I would sleep better and have a happy life. I would know exactly how situations would be handled and mostly what the results would be. Yes, I would control everything. Everything would be good because I was in control.

The funny thing was, I didn’t have control, and I was forcing my control onto situations I had no control over. I thought I was superwoman, but I really had no power. Twenty-five years ago, I was married to a husband who abused drugs, drank too much, quit working, and only came home when I was at work. He told me I was overweight and he did not desire me as a wife. I forced my control onto him, trying to regain what I thought we once had. I hid things from my family about my marriage, and then one day, I was exhausted.

It was about midnight, he hadn’t come home, and my phone rang. On the other end, I hear a man saying, “You need to keep your husband away from my wife!”. I shook my head and thought, “What’s wrong with this picture? Why am I supposed to control this situation? Oh yeah, I’m the woman, and women control things.” I politely told him that I was divorcing my husband and my small daughter was sleeping next to me, and midnight is not an appropriate time to call someone.” I hung up, began crying, and asking God how I lost control of my life? All night I stared at my small daughter and said, “We deserve better than this.”

I fell asleep around 3 am with my eyes stinging from crying. Around 6 am, I opened my eyes, and the bright sun shone in the window. I saw that same little girl sleeping, but this time it wasn’t in darkness; it was in bright streams of light on her. It dawned on me that God spoke, saying we deserved better and should move to Texas to find that better life. He comforted me, saying, “You had to be at your weakest to hear My promises.” My sweet Lexie began rubbing her eyes as she woke up, and I said, “Lexie, would you like to move closer to Grandma and Grandpa in Texas?” Her eyes lit up, almost like she knew we would be okay. Kids know when a marriage isn’t right.

One year after my divorce was finalized, I began a list of characteristics I would want in my future husband. I knew there would be another husband. The list started like this; a man that doesn’t drink too much or use drugs, a man that will be a good father to Lexie, a man that appreciates me in my beauty and my ugly, financially stable, believe in God, stay home and not go out with the boys all the time, smart, have manners, and be fully compatible with me. I think this is really a basic list of what a husband should be, but to me, it was a list that I never had in my husband.

The thing I needed to control was my obedience to God. I gave up drinking as a single mom, didn’t talk down my ex-husband to my daughter, worked hard for little money, and tried to lift my daughter in every way possible. It was a hard six-year struggle until I married Wes, and we became a family. God knew I had to take the walk to see what He was gifting me. He needed me to focus on myself and my small child and to learn to trust Him.

A few days before loading the moving van to head to Texas, I had an online encounter with a man. A man I would have never met. He was on an online dating website that no longer exists called UDate. One of my friends asked me to show her how online dating worked, and I told her to pick out a guy that was online, and I would show her. There was a screen of 24 men online that met my dating requirements (single, Christian, lived in the Dallas area, professional, etc). She chose one, and we chatted and married 3 years later. The important part is he had every quality on my list. God knew what needed to be on my list and the man he would put on my path. My job was to trust and be obedient.

I have always believed that God needed me weak and broken the night I received the phone call that caused me to ask for a better life. He needed me to release control and trust Him. I didn’t understand that He would control it perfectly when I handed over my life. I don’t mean He will give me everything I want, but He will walk me through everything for what He has planned for my life.

That lesson was learned many years ago, and I see God’s goodness in my life repeating when I trust Him. I still try to control situations and find myself pausing and asking God what I should do. I breathe, pray, and trust.

If you are struggling today trying to control your life and manipulate things that aren’t meant to be manipulated, admit you are weak and need God to take control. Carrie Underwood’s song, “Jesus Take The Wheel,” is a great four-word prayer to keep in your pocket. May you all feel God’s peace and blessings on this day. My love and gratitude, LoLo

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with My righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10, NIV)

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6, NIV)

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God Knows……….

There are times my husband and I binge crime shows on ID Network. I have taken several classes in criminology and, in high school, wanted to be a detective. I am amazed at how the criminal mind works. How people choose to do evil acts over good acts. For example, someone with a mind for criminal cyber activities puts so much effort into ripping people off or disrupting their lives. Why do evil? Why not take that same energy and figure out how to protect people against attacks or invent the next big app to improve mental balance? Why? Because Satan preys on us and tries to get us to do evil.

I am so confused watching these shows because I learned in the DA’s Prosecutor’s Academy that we can be on video an average of 238 times per week. That’s roughly 34 times a day. Also, we are constantly tracked on our phones, computers, and IPads an unknown amount of times daily. Our digital footprint is huge. Know what’s bigger? God’s knowledge of everything we do.

When I came to Christ as my Savior, I couldn’t remember the three characteristics of God that started with the letter O. I remembered they were big words and all started with “omni.” I knew it meant “all,” but I couldn’t remember the second part of the compound words. Omnipotent, Omnipresent, and Omniscient.

Only now do I fully understand who God is in these three descriptive words.

Omnipotent. Yes, we all know that God is powerful. The Bible gives us a clearer picture of just how powerful God is.

Genesis 1:1-2, 3, 6, 9 In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. 2 The earth was formless and empty, and darkness covered the deep waters. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the surface of the waters. 3 Then God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. 6 Then God said, “Let there be a space between the waters, to separate the waters of the heavens from the waters of the earth.” 9 Then God said, “Let the waters beneath the sky flow together into one place, so dry ground may appear.” And that is what happened.

These few sentences in the Bible show us how powerful God is. He is the Creator and has power over everything, universal or here on earth. It is repeated in the Bible to reassure us of His power.

Jeremiah 32:17 “Ah, Sovereign Lord, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you.

I know people say, “Just because it says it in the Bible doesn’t mean it’s true.” Okay, scientific doubters, let’s think of our own lives. I have had many things happen in my life that show God’s power. I was an alcoholic. I drove home one night excruciatingly intoxicated. As I drove, I prayed, “God, if You get me home safe without crashing into anyone and without being arrested, I will give up drinking.”. Many of you may have made this promise, too, and may or may not have kept your promise, but I did. The Holy Spirit compelled me to keep that promise. He strongly reminded me that my husband’s sister was killed by a drunk driver when he was 16. What dishonor I was showing him by driving drunk. God also gave me a two-day hangover to remind me of my promise. I laid in bed nauseous, my head hurt, and I missed a speaking engagement I promised my friend I would speak at. It was awful, but in God’s power and love, He walked me through stopping the drinking and recovering from my addiction. I couldn’t do it on my own.

Omnipresent. God is always present and everywhere. This was hard for me to wrap my head around. How can He be everywhere? My little human mind could figure this out. Then, I learned to trust Him and accept this to be true. “So,” I thought, “I can stop overthinking every little worry and lift my anxiety because He is everywhere? Yes, I can. He is with every one of my family members, every friend, every everyone!” I don’t have to stress and worry about every situation. I learned instead to just thank God for His protection and love for everyone. I just taught a class on Psalm 139 that explains God knows what we have done, what we are doing, and what will happen because He is with us and knows our hearts.

Psalm 139 1, 3, 4, 5, 7

1 O Lord, you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.

3 You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home. You know everything I do.

4 You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.

5 You go before me and follow me.

7 I can never escape from your Spirit!
I can never get away from your presence!

Omniscient. Omniscient means “all-knowing”. It means God knows everything. This takes me back to the beginning of this blog and the criminal mind. It’s not just non-believers that have a devious or criminal mind. It’s everyone. We all have things we do that are considered “criminal” in God’s eyes. I think there are a few things I see regularly that people do that I want to emphasize that God sees and KNOWS. Gossip is a big one. Doing a business deal that you know you can upcharge for your services when you really don’t need to because your client trusts you. Turning your back on a friend in need when they text you for help. These things may be “how life works” to some, but to God, they take away His smile.

As you move through your day, consciously think about God seeing your actions. Don’t have road rage or ignore a friend in need or text someone a juicy piece of gossip. Don’t forget the digital footprint you leave that can never be erased. Most of all, don’t forget that God is standing with you when you act on something; he knows your thoughts, too. Let’s make God proud of us, and may we always remember we are His children and cannot hide anything from Him. My love and gratitude, LoLo.

Added reference https://christian.net/resources/hows-our-god-omnipotent-omnipresent-and-omniscient/